An Uninviting Invitation

Assalaamu'alaikum warahmatullah.
Hello there, dear reader. :)

Recently, articles relating to the issue of wearing hijab has been popping up everywhere. Most are regarding a certain Muslimah who is bombarded with comments from the public telling her to wear the hijab. A few days ago I came across an article about a Muslimah who decided to quit online social networking due to the overwhelming carp on her "freehair" pictures.

Yesterday, another article popped up on my news feed about another female individual- I assume she might be a Muslim- who says that the hair is a gift from God and therefore it should not be covered (because of its beauty).

I know what you're thinking.

But no, don't.
Don't go finding that persons' facebook and start "keyfighting" on your impressive keyboards. That's what we like to do, isn't it. Jumping on the bandwagon in defaming others.

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Yes, the hijab- or more notably, covering the aurah- is an obligation for all Muslim women.
Yes, it isn’t right in the eyes of Islam for someone to claim faith and not adhere to the commands of their Creator.

But what also isn't right is the way these comments are made. We understand your concern and sympathy for this person's future. But to attack with vicious, threatening, and at times vulgar words will only move them further away from wanting to change. Two wrongs does not make a right.

Think about it: if you were that person, and the people who are "inviting" you to return to the right path are angry, vindictive, and just plain rude- would you accept their invitation?

Would you enter a house full of people who seems to want to beat you up?
Would you enter a room full of people who are spitting curses at you?
Or would you rather enter a room full of people who are smiling, extending an accepting hand, and ready to help?

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It's not wrong to remind others and invite them to return to the right path. But there are ways.

"Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of who is [rightly] guided."
(An-Nahl:125) 

Before making any such remarks or comments on others (be it in real life or online) be sure to:


  1. Check your intentions.
  2. Avoid degrading or humiliating that person. 
  3. Take into consideration the context of the entire situation; be appropriate. 
  4. Prevent, at all costs, from using vulgar, rude, or harsh words. 


Remember, when you're "inviting" that person to return to Allah, it should be warm and- well, inviting. Not cold and loathsome.

We keep telling others that Islam is a religion of peace. When are we going to start practicing it?
Think about it.

Let's do the right thing, the right way, inshaAllah. :)

Allahua'laam.
Assalaamu'alaikum.

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